Stubborn Choices!

Things were not going smooth for Bhavana, she was having trouble from her family and was having thoughts of leaving her love for her family, actually she was confused if she loves Angad anymore or not.

To break the news of separation to him, she decides to call him.

Bhavana : I guess that's the end of our relationship, bye!

Angad was happy to hear Bhavana's voice after so long that tears of happiness started welling from his eyes, but soon those tears of happiness gave way to the shock that precedented the news of separation and that too in Bhavana's own voice. And all he could mumble was, "What?"

As if it didn't mattered to her that she can have a future with Angad or not, she replied in a very formal and mechanical way, "I don't think things will ever work out between us, this is the end of everything between."

"What's the matter? Talk to me."

"There is nothing to talk, we are no more a couple."

"What happened?"

"Nothing. I have realised that all we have between us is love, and because of that love I can't hurt my parents, they will never ever agree for us."

"We will try and make them see things from our point."

"No, we won't. I am through with us, I don't wanna hurt them."

Once again tears were welling from Angad's eyes and this time they were not of happiness but of pain and hurt, he was so much in pain that he wanted to disappear from the face of earth, he wanted to vapourise in to thin air and get inhaled as oxygen by Bhavana, and be with her forever. But love of his life was no more his. And torn between his love for her, and the pain caused by it, he wasn't able to speak a thing, all he could muster were feeble mumbles that made some sense to Bhavana and she spoke again.

"I gave a word to my parents that I will never ever talk to you, and won't contact you in any way."

Gathering all the courage he had, Angad wiped away the tears, thought of all the dreams he and Bhavana had seen together, and then with the confidence of a man and determination of a lover, spoke very firmly, "I gave a word too, actually I promised you that I will never ever stop loving you, even if the death parts us then also I will keep loving you, and both of us know that I never break the promises I make. I loved you, I love you, and I will always love you. Though you have decided to part ways with me, but I will always be with you like the sky over you, and if ever you need me, just whisper my name and and I will be there holding you in my arms. You can fulfil your words to your parents, and I will keep my promise to you. You are my love not some chocolate that I will stop having. I love you with all my heart and as of today, loving you is my reality."

Bhavana disconnected the call without a single word, and once again tears found their from Angad's eyes to his cheeks all the way down to his chin.

Abused Daughter-In-Law

Irrespective of religion, caste or creed, a daughter-in-law is psychologically, physically and financially abused, because of these main reasons.

1. OUTSIDER TAG:
The main reason for evil is the lack of acceptance of a daughter-in-law as part of the family. Families keep daughter-in-law out of discussions pertaining to family matters. Husband and his parents, talk secretly in a room while the daughter-in-law is made to watch TV, because she is an "outsider".
The really ironic part is that, these people can give amazing views on untouchability, and yet they treat their daughter-in-law as one, in their own home!

2. INSECURE PARENTS:
Parents of the Husband are so insecure, that they are often seen lamenting that "that women took away our son". It's time to accept it that parents in general are selfish, so let's keep the "selfless love tag aside". They "invest" time, money, and love on a son, so he can repay by taking care of them in their old-age. The finer print to this is, they expect him to behave like an obedient 5-year old kid till they die! They just get insecure when he starts to take his own decisions. Decisions that will revolve around his "selfishness" for his own family.
Have these parents ever heard of the saying, "What you throw into the universe comes back to you magnified!!"

3. ADJUSTMENT PHASE:
Adjustment phase is the time, it takes the mind to adjust into a new environment.
Adjustment Phase Disorder (or Adjustment Disorder) is very high levels of sadness, fear, depression and anxiety that one suffers, if the adjustment phase fails. In great majority of cases this disorder requires medicines for cure.
The adjustment phase for daughter-in-law, would be anywhere between 1 - 2 years. But contrast to this, so called PROGRESSIVE HOUSEHOLDS give only a month or maximum two to their daughter-in-law. And the hardest part is that, during this time no one guides her, she has to learn on her own.
Statistically speaking, failure of adjustment phase leads the brain of many ladies into clinical levels of depression and anxiety - this is manifested as fear, sadness, anger and irritation.
TO ADD INSULT TO INJURY - the Indian households, the parents of the Husband, take care of this depression and anxiety by seeping in the IDIOTIC idea "HAVE A CHILD, EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE!!" No doubt we have reached 1.3 billion, and mental health illness is growing exponentially every year!!

4. LOVE OF DARK SIDE:
Everyone loves the dark side. It doesn't matter how rich or powerful one is, dark side always attracts them. It takes a lot of inner strength to stand against the Regressive thought process of the society.
In general, mother-in-laws treat their daughter-in-laws like "slaves". They decide on her daily routine, feel pride in giving her "holidays" and hand over a list of things she "demands" her parents to provide.
All this Stupidity is done in the name of "SOCIAL RULES".
Hardly a marginal percentage of people stand against this. Why?
The Dark Side is so very attractive and it is so very easy to like the negative.
Remember in childhood we were taught, "Bad habits come easily and are very difficult to go!"
It is so natural to like the Dark Side, and as a Big Joke, everyone prays to God for more of it!!!

5. STILL A BOY:
Husband is still a boy, not a man. Most men take a lot of time to mature. Maturity isn't related to physical age, but is related to the mental outlook. Most men behave as small boys, who are happy outsourcing their responsibilities to their parents.
A great number of men find marriage a legal way to have sex, someone to talk to and roam around with.
Most don't have the maturity to understand the emotional and social responsibility they have towards their wife.
Most are not ready to accept the changes that life demands once they get married.
Most men cannot stand up to their mother or father and fight for their wife. But they have one great trait, they create amazing "excuses" to run away from their responsibilities.